My husband and I became certified parents last week.
The certificate, handed to us at the end of our last parenting class held at the hospital where we plan to deliver our fist child, verifies that we have “completed a course of instruction.”
That’s it. So we’re still freaked out.
And as my September 7 due date approaches, I am trying to mentally close the book on my pregnancy and prepare for my new role as mother to a baby girl.
Our goal in taking the class was to learn more about what to expect at the hospital during delivery and pick up a few basics we can use at home in the days that follow.
During the class, we watched videos confirming that the miracle of birth resembles a science fiction film and were told which door to use should I go into labor at 3 a.m.
The class was helpful and I am more confident about laboring and giving birth, but I still have a lot to learn about the days that follow.
It’s a joke that’s made too often, but seriously, they’re just going to give me the baby and send me home?
My mother lived less than a mile from her sister, mother and grandmother when she was a new parent. There were plenty of helping hands, wisdom and opinions (for better or for worse). I left home more than a decade ago and am relying on books, podcasts and the experiences of co-workers and strangers to get me through.
And I keep hearing about mother’s intuition. I’m hoping that kicks in and I can rely on it, too.
But I am running out of time to ponder the large issues of motherhood and need to get down the basics. At 36 weeks and counting, it’s time to wrap up my pregnancy and move forward into motherhood - ready or not.
At some moments I think that our baby girl cannot arrive fast enough. Pregnancy was cute for a few months, but it’s been hot and humid this summer and my feet have resembled swollen potatoes since June. I long to walk without waddling. I am tired of sandals that make noise.
Plus, my friends and family showered us with adorable gifts that I can’t wait to use.
But I feel as much joy as fear when I think about the days, and years, that lie ahead. I have a lot to learn. Mistakes will be made - and I foresee a future full of never completed to-do lists.
Almost a mommy to-do list
Find a lactation consultant who will come to the hospital and my house.
Write a birthing plan. Make copies. Attempt to organize and micromanage the birthing process.
Pack a bag for the hospital.
Install car seat.
Move and set up the nursery (see below).
Sell my condo.
Check in with my health insurance provider; verify that all is well with my coverage and begin panicking about the bills.
Create a will.
Find local new parent groups to meet up with while I am on maternity leave, and hopefully on the weekends and evenings once I return to work.
Pick songs for baby’s first playlist.
Still deciding
Am I going to hire a doula?
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